Have you looked at http://drupal.org/project/mediafront ?

Have you looked at the MediaFront module? Here is a quote about it (from the module's project page):

... is a front end media solution for Drupal. It employs an innovative and intuitive administration interface that allows the website administrator to completely customize the front end media experience for their users without writing any code. In addition, this module provides an interface to which 3rd party media players can integrate and utilize settings presets to display rich media. Out-of-the-box, this module provides two media player solutions.